Why Are Some Indian Women Called Aunties – When you meet an older woman your mother’s age, what do you tell her? Miss.? Lady? If he is between 10 and 20 years older than you, do you call him by his last name or his last name? , Or you can pause and ask how?
If you’re Indian American, you probably call him “Uncle.” “Aunt” and “auntie” have become easy mistakes when talking to distant friends, neighbors, acquaintances, and even strangers who are not older than himself. I noticed an attractive seller from the Indian shop next door and straightened her kurta so that a matron in denim greeted her as ‘aunty’. I completely understand his anger. As a little girl, I have to choose when so many people I know call me “aunty”.
Why Are Some Indian Women Called Aunties
The term aunt “currently functions as a symbol of westernization among the upper middle class in urban and semi-urban India.” Many Indians living in the Bay Area are products of the city’s elite heritage and determined to make liberal use of “uncle” and pass it on to their traditionally questionable offspring.
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Today, the term “aunt” is so overused and abused that it has lost its place and meaning. Indian-American children are taught that every older woman is an aunt; many conclude from this assumption that older women can be aunts. I don’t mean school children here, I mean what I see as various people with lips and beards who should know better. Don’t get me wrong. I have no problem with words
, are all Malayalam words that recognize individuals who are close family members and deserve respect in the family discipline. All Hindi languages have similar words: words like
That everyone confirms close family ties. But the constant use of “aunty” or “auntie” among English-speaking Indian Americans is an example of a slur or a desire to put the person in the dodder category.
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A few months ago I attended an art exhibition at the home of an Indian-American couple. The woman who opened the door to show me and my companion in said she was the host. He was of an indeterminate age, but he was definitely older, and I don’t just mean in the legal sense! The study was conducted across a wide range of age, ethnicity and race groups. The wine flowed and the horses jammed. It’s a cosmopolitan scene. We all became neutral, but when it was time to leave, the flight attendant said to me, “Thanks for coming, aunty!” i spoke How dare this woman call me aunt? Is this the result of his vanity? Was my anger a sign of me? Her use of the term “aunt” with a complete stranger was deliberate and careless. It wasn’t about respect. There was no long term relationship or romance. A clear example of this was “you are old, from another world, I am still young, I want to put some distance between us”.
Here are some guidelines on how to use the term “aunt” and avoid the type I have just described.
If I didn’t know you when you were a child and part of your life when you were learning and growing up, your aunt is not my aunt.
If you are grown or leafy in your churches and our paths have never crossed before, my aunt is not your aunt.
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I’m not the only one who feels this way. When friends’ parents come from India, they understand what it means to be successful, professional, working adults, some of whom may be retired, but still feel like they belong. the United States. Many of these parents prefer to “stay at home” when their children are asked to join them for a local lunch and relegate them to the “uncle/uncle” section of the room. What happened to Indian grace, hospitality and our cultural respect for wisdom and life experience?
In the India of my childhood, aunts were privileged and special members of the family. If they were not sisters or uncle’s wives of your father or mother, they were close friends of the family who knew you from childhood and had a personal interest in your welfare. In an unknown maternal culture, the aunt, as the “aunt” of the elephant in the matriarchal herd, played this special, responsible role, helping the mother to protect and guard the lamb.
Children have always needed aunts: caring and courageous women with whom they shared motherhood. Aunts were part of every childhood “village”, whether in India or the United States. Indeed, the best-selling tribute to the institution of aunts,
Published by Rupert Christiansen in 2006 in the United States, he says that of all our blood relatives, the aunt offers the greatest potential for complex friendship. As the author writes, “the aunt will not be forgotten in the dustbin of history.” It is important to recognize important family members and I agree that we should celebrate the numbers that mean something to us. But “means something” is the operative phrase.
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Imagine all those old desi women you call ‘aunty’. Do you reserve the use of this term for those with whom you have a significant relationship?
Don’t underestimate the value of extended family or the importance of commitment and commitment with names written in empty words. It is time to redefine words like “aunty” and “aunty” in our vocabulary and use them properly. It’s time to appreciate the friends and family who really play a role in shaping our lives.
Shobha Taror Srinivasan is the Director of Development at SVILC, Santa Clara County Center for Independent Living, a full-time mom, and a recording artist in her spare time.
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Especially millennia ago, it was common to refer to unrelated members of the opposite sex as “brother” or “sister”. Or rather formally “future” or “future”. (This does not apply if you are romantically involved with this person.)
A “brother” or “sister” can be a neighbor, an acquaintance, or a stranger. It is considered inappropriate to use a person’s name without an invitation.
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Younger siblings or cousins often refer to their elders as “big brother” or “big sister” after their names. It means respect and affection.
Things are changing now. These types of addresses are more common in rural areas and small towns. Urban India is like that and looking west from the other side.
Two years after moving to America, I enrolled in computer classes at a community college in Chicago. One of my classmates, Ellen, was frail, in her eighties, and an active student.
I had a hard time calling her “Ellen.” However, I’ve lived long enough to know that you don’t call a woman “aunt” in the US – unless she’s actually your aunt.
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So I agreed to always use Ellen’s first name when talking to her. Like, “Ellen, how are you?” instead of “Hello! How are you?”
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